Surprise Kiss

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I wrote this blog in June of 2011 and thought we could all use a reminder on how it is so important to kiss each other to keep those sparks flying!

Are you still trying to figure out how to have the relationship you thought you would have before you were married? Life does get in the way of being married and with kids. How do you sneak the passion back in when you have forgotten how to do it?

I just finished reading a book by Ellen Kreidman, P.H.D. called “The 10 Second Kiss” and it is a must for couples to read. She brings out the fun in romance. The first chapter is about the 10 second kiss but there is so much more than that in the book.

Per Ellen’s suggestion, I decided I was going to give Larry a 10 second kiss everyday. As you know, I already give Larry a kiss when he gets home and when he leaves but never has there been a 10 second kiss. With my heart wide open I asked Larry to give me a 10 second kiss. Of course, his reaction was “What?” but he laughingly obliged and bent down and gave me the kiss I requested.

Now it is our little connection at noontime before he goes back to work. Typically we both are laughing during the 10 second kiss but there are times when his kisses are very good and there is a passion we have to wait for until he gets home from work. Ah, the anticipation! What fun!

This book is for couples who are looking for ways to connect but don’t feel they have time. Ellen has some great suggestions and they are easy to do. Looking to keep the spark in your marriage alive, then read Ellen Kreidman’s book, “The 10 Second Kiss”

Ellen has written other books I have read. Take the time to read these too. You will learn so much about how to have a great marriage:

Light Her Fire: How to Ignite Passion, Joy, and Excitement in the Woman You

Light His Fire: How to Keep Your Man Passionately and Hopelessly in Love With You

These books are probably out of print but I still highly recommend them. Check your local library and/or Amazon to find a copy.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2013, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

Have you ever wondered if your marriage is normal? What are couples in long term happy marriages doing that maybe you’re not?

While I think couples and marriages are all different and what determines normal is based on the couple and their beliefs and expectations. It is always good to see if you can make some changes that could make it better.

Chrisanna Northrup & Pepper Schwartz wrote a book call “The Normal Bar” were they surveyed 100,000 people and discovered there are things that happy long term marriages do that dysfunctional marriages don’t.

Watch the Today Show with Matt Lauer & Savannah Guthrie interviewing Chrisanna & Pepper about what their survey found. You will find it interesting.

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We can always learn from other people. A marriage always has room for change. It is the marriage that stands still and becomes stale are usually the ones that fall apart.

What is your opinion on this?

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Actress/Entrepreneur Lisa Rinna and relationship expert Ian Kenner were recently on the Today show talking about a book they coauthored  called “The Big, Fun, Sexy, Sex Book”.

Lisa and Ian were introduced to each other one day and started talking about relationships. Ian being the sex expert who has written many books about relationships while Lisa wrote a book a few years ago about her life. In one of the chapters she disclosed the problems she had getting her groove back with her husband after having a baby.

Both have been married for many years, Lisa, to Harry Hamlin and Ian is married to Lisa Rubish. During their discussion on relationships they started to talk about maybe coauthoring a book together which later resulted in “The Big, Fun, Sexy, Sex Book”.

Here is the clip from the Today Show:

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Do you feel you have lost the spark in your marriage? Then you may want to purchase this book. Sometimes all it takes is reading a book together to make a change in your marriages for the better.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2012, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

A few weeks ago I wrote about the importance of kissing to help keep the passion in your relationship. I suggested that you purchase the book, “The Ten Second Kiss”, by Ellen Kreidman. As you know kissing is an important part of connecting you as a couple but did you know kissing is good for your health too?

If you want to enhance your immune system and keep your blood pressure down then kiss for 30 minutes with your sweetheart and you will both not only be boosting you passion but your health. It helps your body to have fewer allergy symptoms. Kissing brings on the powerful calming hormone, oxytocin, which helps to alleviate your stress and your body to fight any allergies you might have.

Grab your sweetheart and start kissing each other for 30 minutes. Don’t worry if you start laughing together because you will get the same results.  Laughing & kissing together can do your body and relationship good.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2011, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

Are you still trying to figure out how to have the relationship you thought you would have before you were married? Life does get in the way of being married and with kids. How do you sneak the passion back in when you have forgotten how to do it?

I just finished reading a book by Ellen Kreidman, P.H.D. called “The 10 Second Kiss” and it is a must for couples to read. She brings out the fun in romance. The first chapter is about the 10 second kiss but there is so much more than that in the book.

Per Ellen’s suggestion, I decided I was going to give Larry a 10 second kiss everyday. As you know, I already give Larry a kiss when he gets home and when he leaves but never has there been a 10 second kiss. With my heart wide open I asked Larry to give me a 10 second kiss. Of course, his reaction was “What?” but he laughingly obliged and bent down and gave me the kiss I requested.

Now it is our little connection at noontime before he goes back to work. Typically we both are laughing during the 10 second kiss but there are times when his kisses are very good and there is a passion we have to wait for until he gets home from work. Ah, the anticipation! What fun!

This book is for couples who are looking for ways to connect but don’t feel they have time. Ellen has some great suggestions and they are easy to do. Looking to keep the spark in your marriage alive, then read Ellen Kreidman, P.H.D. book, “The 10 Second Kiss“.

Ellen has written other books I have read. Take the time to read these too. You will learn so much about how to have a great marriage:

Light Her Fire: How to Ignite Passion, Joy, and Excitement in the Woman You

Light His Fire: How to Keep Your Man Passionately and Hopelessly in Love With You

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2011, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

Are you bored with your love life? Do you wish you knew how to spice up your sex life with your sweetheart but don’t know what to do? Do you want to learn some new techniques but you are afraid to ask anyone for fear you would sound stupid or are you too embarrassed to ask? Are you having trouble getting in the mood?

I just finished reading a book a friend lent me and I thought you might enjoy reading it too. Have you ever heard of the home parties called “Passion Parties”? This book was written by Pat Davis the founder/owner of these parties. While reading I personally didn’t expect to find a lot of information about how to bring back the passion in your relationship without the use of sex toys and other potions but was surprised to find this was not the main topic in the book.  Pat gives you creative and detailed descriptions in the book for not only setting up romantic times together but also she teaches you how to bring the passion back in your bedroom. Don’t get me wrong she does talk about using toys and other potions but it isn’t the whole topic in the book.

The name of the book is:

The Passion Parties Guide to Great Sex: Secrets and Techniques to Keep Your Relationship Red Hot

Ladies are you having a hard time climaxing or maybe you don’t know what it feels like to climax? Pat Davis will help you find your passion diva within and then help you show your partner how to please you in a non-threatening way. Men if you are having a hard time making it last longer or keeping it up, Pat has some tricks up her sleeve to help you too. The book is written in a non-threatening way and she consistently writes not to cross a line you don’t feel comfortable with.

This is a great book to read together. It will put you both in the mood! In addition, you will be reminded not only of things you haven’t done in a long time, you will also learn some new fun ways you may not have thought of. Reading this book can help you bring back the passion and romance you have been looking for in your relationship.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2011, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

A few weeks ago I mentioned to you that I would be writing on SurpriseKiss.com three days a week as oppose to the five days a week so I could move forward with my plans to add another dimension to the website for you. My Amazon Store is now up and running! If you look at the top tabs you will notice a tab that says “Store”. If you click on it you will notice books on Cooking, Relationships and Travel. These are all related to romance. Please take the time to review the store and if you see anything you might be interested in purchasing please click on the link and it will take you to Amazon.com.

Keep checking on the “Store” tab because I will be continuing to add more things to it for you. In the near future you will notice you will be able to purchase candles, lotions, CDs, etc. Surprise Kiss is there for you, making it easier to find information and items to help you keep the romance in your relationship alive!

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2011, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

You want to make a very romantic dinner for your sweetheart but not sure what you would like to serve. Have you ever thought about how food, passion and sensuality work together? Can certain foods have aphrodisiac qualities?

Who doesn’t think about chocolate dipped strawberries and champagne when thinking of romantic foods? Or what about oysters do they really increase your sex drive for those who eat them?

There is a cookbook that can answer these questions and much more. It is full of aphrodisiac history and recipes along with four non-edible massage oils you can make. There is drawing of a male and female, with bathing suites on, showing the areas that bring the most pleasure to each gender. And which recipes work on the body as well as they do on the plate.

Want to make a very sensual dinner for your lover and you? Then you may want to purchase this book:

InterCourses: an aphrodisiac cookbook

This very erotic book with its sensual pictures will send you directly to the grocery store to whip up some romance tonight!

Larry purchased this book for me on Valentines. Try their Strawberry-Avocado Salad and their Honey-Glazed Salmon. Yum!

*Don’t forget to pickup the items I wrote about on Sept 29th called “Spice Up Your Holidays” for a very romantic Halloween and Christmas!

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2010, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

How do you meet your spouse’s love needs? I am not only asking you about your physical relationship but more importantly what do you do to make them feel loved. Do you keep trying to show them how much you love them but no matter what you do they still tell you they don’t feel loved? Well maybe you are not speaking their love language.

I just finished reading “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. In his book he reveals the five distinct languages we all use to express our love for someone. When you understand each other’s love language you will know how to effectively and consistently make each other feel loved.

This book will help you clarify not only your love language but your spouse’s. You will learn the five distinct languages we all use to express love:

• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Receiving Gifts
• Acts of Service
• Physical Touch

At the end of the book there is a profile test you and your spouse can take to find out your primary love language. It will take at least 15 to 30 minutes to complete. Once you both have taken the test you will have a better understanding of how you and your spouse feel loved.

This is a great book to read together at the end of the day after all the kids are in bed. Take the test after you have read the book. We took the test and my husband’s love language is Acts of Service and Physical Touch. Mine is Quality Time and Physical Touch. After 43 years of marriage we intuitively understood it but it was nice to know we were on the right track. I am glad I took the time to read this and I think you will be too.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2010, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

I just finished reading “365 Nights, A Memoir of Intimacy” by Charla Muller. I first heard about this book when Charla and her husband were interviewed by Oprah awhile back. You see she wanted to give her husband a 40th birthday no one else could give him. “Sex, every day, for an entire year! When I first heard about her doing this I thought she has to be nuts!!!! Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy sex but every day for a year, that would be hard to do. With working, family, friends and the stress of everyday life sometimes we are just not in the mood. This book perked my interest. I wanted to find out how she made it happen for the whole year or did she find excuses not to participate once in a while.

With honesty and humor Charla talked about her life with her husband, Brad, the good and the bad parts of it. While reading you will find out how she has struggled with depression (which she nicked named “Little D”) off and on through the years and how Brad has stood beside her. The everyday struggles, work implosion and faking it and the questions that come with having sex everyday. Is it beneficial to have intimacy that often or does it make you resentful? All these questions and more are answered in the book.

I really appreciated the candor, sincerity and grace that Charla presented of her life with her husband and children. She is a modern woman with some of the same problems and issues we all struggle with from time to time. Take the time to sit down and read this book. You will walk away wiser and know a little more about the intricate intimacy of a marriage. And maybe look at your relationship with your spouse differently.

You can get this book at www.amazon.com.  Read it and who knows you might try to give the same gift to your spouse. If you enjoy reading together, you will want to pick this one up. You will have some great discussions.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2010, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.