Archive for May, 2010

Express your gratitude to your spouse by saving $5 a week for a romantic getaway.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Did you get the items you needed for Memorial Day Weekend that I suggested you pick up on May 21st? If you haven’t picked up the items yet and you would like to have an evening of romance over the long weekend then run out and get them.

Here are the items I suggested:

  • Gather those old pictures of you two dating and when you were first married.
  • A small photo album
  • Nice stationary paper
  • Small Card
  • Candle

On the stationary paper write all the wonderful and funny memories you had while you were dating and first married. It doesn’t have to be long, keep it short and simple. Fold it up and put it in the card you purchased. Write a short note in it saying: “Let’s make it a very memorable evening for us! After the kids are in bed meet me in the bedroom I will have some soft music on, a candle glowing by the bed and we will have a Memorable Romance we won’t forget!”

On Saturday or Sunday morning give your sweetheart the small photo album with the pictures of you two along with the note and card. Your kids will enjoy seeing the pictures and hearing some of the stories of how you met and what made you fall in love with your spouse. Privately you and your spouse will be anticipating your private time together later in the evening. Oh what fun your minds will be having!

My wish for you is that you always have a Memorable Romance together!

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Most people know when they are stressed if they take a few minutes and close their eyes and imagine a peaceful place they will feel less stressed. But did you know if you gazed into your lovers eyes for an extra beat or two you can deeply connect in ways you may not have thought about.

The phrase “the eyes are the window to the soul” is so true. You can learn a lot by looking into a person’s eyes. You can tell if they are sad, angry, happy, etc. Did you know when you gaze into your partners eyes you are re-creating the same feeling of “falling in love.” It stimulates the production of relationship-boosting oxytocin and you can do it in a non-sexual way.

When you are making love don’t you gaze into each others eyes? If you’re not gazing into each others eyes then what are you thinking of? You are definitely not in the moment and not feeling the enjoyment you should. Tantric followers believe when you gaze into your lovers eyes you have a deeper connection and a more fulfilling love life.

So I decided to try it out with Larry when he came home from work last night. He thought I was nuts but he obliged me and we sat down and gazed into each others eyes for a couple of beats and then immediately started to laugh and laugh.

Obviously this was not a scientific test and I am not a psychologist but we did connect in a rather silly and fun way. I realize there are people who will be angry with me because I appear to have treated something so special so lightly. I disagree. We did connect. Yes, we laughed but doesn’t laughter connect you with your partner in a deep way too. Why can’t you have something as serious as eye gazing turn into laughter too? I do hope when you are making love and gazing into each others eyes you don’t start to laugh. Now that would be a problem.

Remember your eyes not only can help you with stress. More importantly, it can help you stay connected with the one you love. Gaze into your lovers eyes for a couple of beats in the morning and when they get home from work. You will be subconsciously connecting to the one you love.

Don’t forget to pick up the items I told you to get on Friday titled: “Make it Memorable.” Tomorrow I will be revealing what you need to do with everything.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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As you know I am always trying to think of something for you to do as a couple that doesn’t cost a lot of money or no money at all. Well I came up with an idea rather unexpectedly and it won’t cost you a dime. Recently I was cleaning out my wallet and found a Wal-Mart, Applebees and a Marshall’s gift card I had forgotten about. Also, we have a Starbucks and movie gift cards in a spot we can go to quickly.

Do you have any gift cards lying around you haven’t used yet? Did you know one in five people have gift cards they have forgotten about? Check your drawers and wallets to see if you have any lying around. You might be as surprised and as lucky as I was.

So I started to think about what I had and how I could turn this into a couple of dates. On the first date we could go to Marshalls and find a new shirt for Larry and me then on to Wal-Mart to purchase some candy, a large purse to go with my new shirt and new jeans for both of us. Then we could go to Starbucks for a cup of coffee and a little snack to share.

On the second date we would get dressed up with our new shirts and jeans.  I would put the candy we bought at Wal-Mart in my new purse and throw in a couple of bottles of water too. We would go out to dinner at Applebees and then we would go to see a movie with our movie card and since there is enough money leftover in my Starbucks card we will have a hot chocolate afterwards.

Two date nights and no money out of our pockets. Don’t waste any time, start to look for those lost and forgotten cards and see if you can do the same thing. If there are none lying around then when someone asks you what you would like for a gift tell them a gift card. Put the cards in an envelope and a spot you won’t forget about so you don’t lose them. Also, check the dates to make sure you use them before they expire.

Don’t forget to pick up the items I told you to get on Friday titled:  “Make it Memorable.”

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Do you feel like your marriage is in a rut? You do the same thing every week. Boring!!! You have forgotten what it feels like to do something different. You have gotten into a comfortable routine. Well why not have a min-adventure?

Did you know studies have shown mini-adventures can fire up the senses? Try something different, something you haven’t done in a long time or something completely new. When you do this it creates a new neural path that can activate the production of dopamine (the attention hormone) which can help you appreciate each other.

Larry and I had an unexpected mini-adventure this weekend. Larry went to work in the morning and I worked on straightening up the house and fixed lunch for the both of us when he got home. After we ate lunch Larry suggested we run up to Arroyo Grande to get some fresh fruits and vegetables. I had plans we would work on the house and our small vegetable garden but figured why not. Let’s drive up to the Arroyo Grande Village and listen to the free entertainment under the gazebo. Purchase the fresh produce from our local farmers to use in our dinners this week. We hopped into the car with our cooler in the back R & B playing on our XM Radio with us deciding what we needed to get to compliment our meals for the week.

Sounds like fun? We did have fun but it didn’t stop there. After we went to farmers market we went to Starbucks for coffee. While we were enjoying our coffee our daughter called us to see if we wanted to meet them with the kids and have dinner at an inexpensive little Mexican restaurant and after go to see the movie Rocket Man. We decided to opt out this time and instead decided to drive up to Baywood Park for dinner. It is about an hour drive from our house along the coast. There is a great little place where they serve Thai food. It is called Noi’s.

When I say little I mean tiny. When you walk into the place you immediately see Noi standing there stir frying up all these delicious aromas. There is a small counter with two bar stools overlooking all the activity or a bar that runs against the wall for about six people. You can eat outside too. Most people order ahead and pick up the food to take home. We were lucky enough to sit at the bar overlooking Noi and her workers make magic with some vegetables, chicken, shrimp or tofu. Larry went across the street to purchase a large bottle of beer to share while we ate Pad Thai with chopsticks. Yum! We hadn’t been to Baywood Park and Noi’s in forever. It was a nice unexpected treat, totally unplanned and a nice way to relax and have a mini-adventure that didn’t cost too much.

So when is your next mini-adventure? Fire up your senses, get out of your routine and discover why you enjoy each others company.

Don’t forget to pick up the items I told you to get on Friday titled: “Make it Memorable.”

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Love in your marriage is the gift of each other. Keep saving your $5 a week and you will be able to give the gift of love uninterrupted.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Memorial Day Weekend is next week and I started to think about what you could do to make it special for the two of you. I realize that Monday, May 31, is Memorial Day and it is to remember those who have served and are currently serving our county and to honor those who have died in wars. But we do have Saturday and Sunday and why not honor your your relationship with your partner.

Get these items before next weekend:

  • Gather those old pictures of you two dating and when you were first married.
  • Get a small photo album to put it in
  • Nice stationary paper
  • Small Card
  • Candles

Next Friday, May 28, I will reveal what to do with your items and you will have a very memorable Memorial Day Weekend for the two of you.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Whether You are Getting Married
or
Looking for a Summer Romance with Your Sweetheart

Please Join Us
at
FASHION BUG

With special guest speaker JoJo from SurpriseKiss.com

Want to surprise your husband when you get back from your Honeymoon or are looking to bring back the romance in your relationship? Then please join us at the Fashion Bug along with JoJo from www.surprisekiss.com for an evening of fun and laughter. Our trained sales associates at the Fashion Bug will be available for bra fitting and JoJo will be there to give you some fun and inexpensive romantic ideas for you to do for you and your sweetheart no matter what the occasion may be.

When:  Friday, May 21st

Where: Fashion Bug

  At the Crossroads
  2342 S Bradley Road #9B,  Santa Maria, CA 93455
  (805) 349-9968

Time:  8:00 PM to 10:00 PM

Door Prizes!!!

Sign up today! Space is limited and we don’t want you to miss this fun and enjoyable evening.

Please no children – Adults only – Must be 18 or older.
RSVP at the Fashion Bug or call (805) 349-9968

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“Success in a marriage is a journey, not a destination. Happiness is to be found along the way, not at the end of the road.” How many of us think we will have a wonderful marriage once all the bills are paid and we can do what ever we want to do? Our marriage will be happier when we can go out to eat, travel, buy a bigger home, purchase elegant furniture and not worry about money. Or things will be better when the children are grown and gone or when we retire from work? So many of us are waiting for our happiness in our marriage to happen in the future, things will be better then.

Instead “Love your marriage like there is no tomorrow.” Enjoying the journey no matter what the situation is. Waiting for a better future will not make you happy nor will you have a happier marriage. If you can’t find happiness in the now how can you find happiness in the future. Don’t you know it doesn’t matter whether you are poor or rich, sick or healthy, sad or happy, life continues to go on?

If you were told you only had a few months to live would you wallow in sorrow or try to make the best of it? Would you choose to have wonderful memories for your loved ones after you are gone? I already know my answer, I would choose to live in the now and find the happiness of the few months left with my sweetheart and family. So why do we have to wait for happiness in our marriage?

Starting today by enjoying the moments you have together and the specialness that makes your marriage different from other marriages. Find fun inexpensive ways to bring happiness and memories to last a lifetime. You deserve to have wonderful memories even through the difficult times and so does your marriage. And I will continue to help you do just that through inexpensive and creative ways.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Do you touch your partner more than once a day? Did you know when you touch someone you are connecting with them? You hear me talk a lot about the importance of giving hugs and kisses to your spouse but just walking by and briefly touching them with your hand or body in a nonsexual way will keep the two of you connected also.

Did you know touching can speak louder than words? Touching can say “I love you” without saying it. It can show a profound interest in the other. When you ask “How was your day” and your spouse says “Fine” touch their hand or arm and nod. You are letting them know you want to hear more and care about them. Everyone wants to know someone cares about them.

Touch can also reduce anxiety, tension and pain. It can lower your heart rate, drop your blood pressure and it can speed recovery when you are ill. The statement “The healing power of touch” is so true.

I have an assignment for you to try. On the first day go about your day but try to see how many times you normally touch each other. On the second day try to increase your touch by three and then increase it until you have and additional five or more each day.

By touching, hugging and kissing each day you will be connected in a way most couples aren’t. You will feel closer to each other and your partner will feel loved by you. If your partner has trouble doing this, let them know when you need a hug, kiss or just a touch. Slowly but surely they will become comfortable with this beautiful act of nonverbal love.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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