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Archive for March, 2011

Spring is in the air! March 20th was the first day of spring and couples all over the country are looking at sprucing up the inside and outside of their homes. I know it always feels good to take a particular area of the home and clean it out. Even if you live in someplace were you can open your windows and let the fresh air in during the winter it can still get that musty smell because it is cooler in the winter and we tend to not open the windows everyday.

Our relationships can start to get that old musty feeling too. You get into a rut. Have you ever thought of doing a little spring cleaning with your relationship? Last Saturday, March 26th on the Today Show they had Ian Kerner, sex therapist, talked about the importance of renewing and refreshing your romance. Ian gives you four points to put into action together to make your relationship continue to have “That loving feeling”.

Take the time to watch this 2 minute 9 second video. After watching it you and your sweetheart may want to implement his ideas of spring cleaning to rekindle your romance:

Spring Clean Your Relationship

Take the time to transform the romance in your relationship this spring. Your marriage will be better for it.

Let me know what you thought about this video.

Keep those sparks flying!

JoJo

Need help with cooking for romance, relationship or travel ideas? Then go to my Surprise Kiss Store above and click on the tab to see the authors I like to read and games that are fun to play with your sweetheart.

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Enjoy the little pleasures in your marriage and keep saving your $5 a week for your romantic getaway.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

Need help with cooking for romance, relationship or travel ideas? Then go to my Surprise Kiss Store above and click on the tab to see the authors I like to read and games that are fun to play with your sweetheart

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What are you planning on doing with your sweetheart this weekend? Last weekend we decided to paint our kitchen which entailed removing some shelving above 4 windows and bringing them to Goodwill. Then we taped and covered all the wood cabinets and painted the ceiling white twice for good coverage. This weekend will be painting the walls a latte (light beige) and we will also try to have a little fun too by going to see a movie.

When you go out do you get dressed up or do you throw on just anything? When Larry and I go out we both try to dress nice. We don’t get real fancy but we do put on a nice pair of jeans and a clean top and make sure our hair is combed and looks good. It is interesting to watch people as they go into the movie theatre. Some will dress nice and then there are those who dress sloppy. I always wonder what kind of life they have at home. Is their home the same way they dress? Do they respect each other needs? What is their love life like?

Larry & I always try to dress for the occasion. If it is dinner and the movies then it is usually a nice pair of jeans and a clean shirt. We treat it like a date. Do you? When you take the time to dress nicely for dinner and the movies you are making it feel special. If you are wearing just sloppy sweats and a baggy top nothing feels special or important. It is just grabbing something quick to eat to go see the movie, nothing important. How sad! 

If you want to have a special marriage you have to treat it that way. So if you are going out this weekend even if it is just for a quick dinner and a movie or maybe it is for a cup of coffee together, dress up not only for yourself but for your spouse too. It will feel more like a date. You are not only respecting each other, you are respecting your marriage. You are both saying I care about how I look when I am with you.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

Need help with cooking for romance, relationship or travel ideas? Then go to my Surprise Kiss Store above and click on the tab to see the authors I like to read and games that are fun to play with your sweetheart.

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How do you meet your spouse’s love needs? Not only am I asking you about your physical relationship but more importantly what do you do to make them feel loved. Do you keep trying to show them how much you love them but no matter what you do your spouse still tells you they don’t feel loved? Well maybe you are not speaking their love language.

I just finished reading [amazon_link id=”0802473156″ target=”_blank” ]The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts[/amazon_link]. In his book he reveals the five distinct languages we all use to express our love for someone. When you understand each other’s love language you will know how to effectively and consistently make each other feel loved.

This book will help you clarify not only your love language but your spouse’s. You will learn the five distinct languages we all use to express love:

• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Receiving Gifts
• Acts of Service
• Physical Touch

At the end of the book there is a profile test you and your spouse can take to find out your primary love language. It will take at least 15 to 30 minutes to complete. Once you both have taken the test you will have a better understanding of how you and your spouse feels love.

Read the book together at the end of the day after all the kids are in bed. Take the test after you have read the book. We took the test and my husband’s love language is Acts of Service and Physical Touch. Mine is Quality Time and Physical Touch. After 44 years of marriage we intuitively understood it but it was nice to know we were on the right track. I am glad I took the time to read this and I think you will be too.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Love your marriage.

Dare to dream about a romantic getaway together.

Live with purpose by lovingly saving your $5 a week to make your dream come true!

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

Need help with cooking for romance, relationship or travel ideas? Then go to my Surprise Kiss Store above and click on the tab to see the authors I like to read.

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It’s Friday night and the weekend is here! YA!!! You are looking forward to the weekend and a couple of days off with the family. There are games to attend and a party with friends on Saturday night. Sunday is church with the kids and then maybe a family gathering. I’m tried just thinking about it. In a world were we are all over extended with work, kids, friends and family. How do you find the energy to not only have a quiet moment with your own thoughts let alone find the time to be alone with your sweetheart? And we haven’t even gotten to the question of how do we get in the mood for some romantic intimacy? No wonder couples grow apart and feel like they are living with their brothen though it is difficult to find a quiet moment to be with your sweetheart alone, there are ways to make it happen and have fun together. And it won’t cost you a dime. When you get home after work tonight plan on playing a game that only you two can play. After dinner with the family and the kids are in bed or if they are a little older have them watch a new CD they been beginning to see. You could even invite a couple of their friends for a sleepover and then you should be guaranteed they won’t bother you.

Go into your bedroom and turn on the music, pour a glass of wine, beer or a cup of hot chocolate and play a game together. Now I am not talking about just any game. I want you to play Scrabble but it won’t be your ordinary Scrabble Game] you are use to. You find words that are sexual in nature or loaded with innuendos. This should get you both laughing and more in the mood than you have been in a long time considering your schedules!

It really doesn’t take a lot of money or time to feel connected with your sweetheart. All you need to do is make little special moments happen that help you feel connected. And a little game of Scrabble can do just that. Most importantly, your husband or wife will feel like your lover not your bother or sister.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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St Patrick’s Day is tomorrow! Do you want to blow your sweetheart away with a very funny and sexy romantic idea? Then you have come to the right place.

Here is what you will need:

• Blank St Patrick’s Day Card
• Candles
• Gold Plastic Bowl to hold a bottle of wine, beer or apple cider (Your pot of gold)
• 3 Cardboard 4 Leaf clovers (men all you need is 1lightweigh 4 leaf clover)

In the morning give your sweetheart the St Patrick’s Day card with your note inside:

“After the kids are in bed tonight meet me in the bedroom and you will be very happy because you will have found your four leaf clover tonight.”

When your sweetheart walks into the bedroom the candles will be lit, the gold plastic bowl will be filled with ice and your favorite beverage of choice & you will be standing with 2 glasses of bubbly and the 4 leaf clovers pasted to certain parts of your body.

You will both feel very lucky because you found the “Luck of the Irish” on St Patrick’s Day!

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

Need help with cooking for romance, relationship or travel ideas? Then go to my Surprise Kiss Store above and click on the tab to see the authors I like to read and games that are fun to play with your sweetheart.

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Let the love you have for each other show. Your children are watching. Keep saving $5 a week for your romantic getaway.

Keep those sparks flying!

JoJo

Need help with cooking for romance, relationship or travel ideas? Then go to my Surprise Kiss Store above and click on the tab to see the authors I like to read.

© 2011, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

Want to add spice to your relationship? No I’m not talking about sex today. Although …….you could add that at the end of your date if you so choose! I’m talking about bringing out the child in you and your sweetheart. When was the last time just the two of you went to play an arcade game without the kids?

You could even go to a restaurant that has arcade games there. One that comes to mind that isn’t only for kids is Dave & Buster’s Restaurant. Their menu is very diverse; it is not just the burgers and fries. You can order steak, ribs, fish or a gourmet salad. If you are looking to save a little money right now they have a special going, Wednesday they have ½ price games. Also, you earn free game play with every purchase! If you don’t have a Dave & Buster’s Restaurant near you then find a pizza place. Some have games that you can play there. Order pizza & beer or have a pasta dish & wine. Then enjoy a video game or two together. Who ever wins has to buy desert.

No money to go out? Then after the kids are in bed pour a glass of wine, beer or sparkling cider and play to your hearts content online. There are lots of free video games on the internet.  You could play for favors from each other. Use your imagination. I’m sure you can get creative when you put your two heads together.

The idea is to have fun outside of the box. When you occasionally change what you do on date night your relationship won’t be so boring.  You will have a fun and interesting marriage and the sparks will keep flying!

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

Need help with cooking for romance, relationship or travel ideas? Then go to my Surprise Kiss Store above and click on the tab to see the authors I like to read.

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Are you bored with your love life? Do you wish you knew how to spice up your sex life with your sweetheart but don’t know what to do? Do you want to learn some new techniques but you are afraid to ask anyone for fear you would sound stupid or are you too embarrassed to ask? Are you having trouble getting in the mood?

I just finished reading a book a friend lent me and I thought you might enjoy reading it too. Have you ever heard of the home parties called “Passion Parties”? This book was written by Pat Davis the founder/owner of these parties. While reading I personally didn’t expect to find a lot of information about how to bring back the passion in your relationship without the use of sex toys and other potions but was surprised to find this was not the main topic in the book.  Pat gives you creative and detailed descriptions in the book for not only setting up romantic times together but also she teaches you how to bring the passion back in your bedroom. Don’t get me wrong she does talk about using toys and other potions but it isn’t the whole topic in the book.

The name of the book is:

The Passion Parties Guide to Great Sex: Secrets and Techniques to Keep Your Relationship Red Hot

Ladies are you having a hard time climaxing or maybe you don’t know what it feels like to climax? Pat Davis will help you find your passion diva within and then help you show your partner how to please you in a non-threatening way. Men if you are having a hard time making it last longer or keeping it up, Pat has some tricks up her sleeve to help you too. The book is written in a non-threatening way and she consistently writes not to cross a line you don’t feel comfortable with.

This is a great book to read together. It will put you both in the mood! In addition, you will be reminded not only of things you haven’t done in a long time, you will also learn some new fun ways you may not have thought of. Reading this book can help you bring back the passion and romance you have been looking for in your relationship.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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