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Loving coupleA friend sent this to me by email and I thought it was so good I needed to pass it on to you. I tweaked it a bit for your marriage but we should all live this way no matter who we are with.

Give your sweetheart more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older , their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

When you say, “I love you,” mean it.

When you say, “I’m sorry,” look the person in the eye.

Be engage at least six months before you get married.

Believe in love at first sight.

Never laugh at your sweetheart’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.

Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.

In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

Don’t judge your sweetheart by their relatives.

Talk slowly but think quickly.

When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?’

Remember that great love and achievements involve great ricks.

Say “bless you” when you hear your honey sneeze.

When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for your sweetheart; and Responsibility for all your actions.

Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship/marriage.

When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

Spend some time alone.

Wise words to live by in your lifetime. You will be a happier person and so will your relationship.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

“Your marriage is a gift from God; how you treat it is a gift to him.”

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beauty young cookOk, I get it you are overworked and underpaid. You and your husband work 40+ hours and are just too tired to go out on date night. Plus there are bills to be paid and there is no money for date night. Where do you find the money and the time to do anything enjoyable with your sweetheart?

Larry and I have always tried to watch our money but like everyone else we have overspent and let the credit cards get out of control and then we have to reel in the purse strings to get back on track. I personally know it is no fun but I also realized we cannot continue to spend like we have.

So here are some of our strategies we have done off and on through the years to get back on track on and living within our means.

Do you still have children living at home and are they in their teens? Teach them how to cook. Have them make one or two meals a week so when you and your husband get home dinner is done. Then there is no excuse for going out to dinner during the week.

When Denise was in her teens we would have her make a menu for 2 nights a week and give us a list of the food items she needed to complete dinner. We would get the items she needed at the grocery store so there was no excuse she couldn’t cook on her designated nights. There was a big advantage for all three of us. She was learning a life skill so when she moved out on her own she could cook and we didn’t have an excuse to go out and eat.

Then Larry and/or I would cook dinner the other two nights. On Friday, it was chose your own dinner. We usually had leftovers from the week in the refrigerator and we would each get to eat whatever we wanted.

Having your children help with cooking teaches them not only a life skill when they move out but also how to work as a team.

With everyone pitching in to help with cooking there should be enough money to squeeze in an inexpensive date night with the one you love.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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“Your marriage is a gift from God; how you treat it is a gift to him.”

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Are you feeling like you have lost the spark in your relationship? Then you will want to watch the Today Show Video on how to bring that lovin feeling back.

Sex Counselor, Ian Kerner and Sex Counselor, Janet Taylor talk how to connect in small ways you may not have thought about.

How to Get the Spark Back in Your Relationship

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I thought they had some great ideas to help you find some alone time with your sweetheart.

1. Show affection and kindness.

2. Make sure the kids are active during the day so they will go to bed early so you and your partner can have some quiet time together.

3. Bring a babysitter along with the children and play miniature or bowling and try to get away with your sweetie pie for a little bit and then regroup with everyone.

4. Don’t forget to put a lock on the bedroom door that way there are no little munchkins trying to walk in on your fun time.

5. Go away for a weekend with another couple who have children around the same age as yours that you enjoy being with and trust. Take turns getting away with your honeybun.  The kids will have fun with their friends and you don’t have to give them 100% of your time. They probably won’t even notice you left them for a little bit.

These are great suggestions to help you figure out how to put that spark back into your relationship. Make it a point to try one, two or all five and see if it helps you get in sync with that special someone you married.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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“Your marriage is a gift from God; how you treat it is a gift to him.”

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I published this on 7/15/2010 and thought it was worth revisiting. Enjoy!

Family Dining Al Fresco At The BeachThe daily stress of working, taking care of the kids and cooking dinner can seem like too much. So you are trying to decide what to have for dinner. You have forgotten to take something out of the freezer or you are just too tired to think let alone cook dinner.

Ladies, why not run to the grocery store and pick up a rotisserie chicken and a salad from the deli on your way home. Guys, you know your wife is under more stress than usual so why not offer to pick up dinner for them. Grab paper plats, sodas, blanket and the kids and go to the beach or park and have dinner basking in the last of the sun’s rays while enjoying your beautiful family. You will feel as if you are on vacation! Let the kids play on the swings and jungle bars while you and your spouse sit back and watch them.

After you have picked everything up and everyone is in the car stop by the local ice cream store and buy everyone an ice cream. Sit outside and watch the cars go by and ask each child how their day was and what they did. When you get home help each other bathe the kids and put them to bed.

When our daughter was small we would take a picnic dinner on the beach all the time and then go for a walk along the strand with her. These are the special times I remember more than the expensive dinners out with just my husband.

A while back a friend was complaining about how much stress she was under and I suggested when she and her husband got home to grab the kids and have a picnic dinner on the beach. She responded with it is a half hour away. I said so! I told her that her family would never forget the night in the middle of the week they went for a picnic on the beach. She took my suggestion and sure enough every so often when I see her she said her kids and her husband bring up how much fun they had. They now try to do it every so often.

Once the house is quiet and you have gotten ready for bed why not pour a small glass of wine or sparkling cider, light a candle and enjoy a little rest and relaxation together with soft music playing in the background. Find out what kind of day you both had. By the time you both put your heads down on the pillow you will feel more relaxed than when you first came home from work. You will have enjoyed your family and each other. Your children will feel a connection to you and the stability of your marriage.

So go ahead and take the night off in the middle of the week. Your marriage and children will thank you.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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“Your marriage is a gift from God; how you treat it is a gift to him.”

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In Oct of 2010 I wrote this blog and thought it was worth revisiting. We all need to be reminded to take time out.

Couple holding handsAre you and your spouse stressed out from the daily grind of work and responsibilities of life? Spend some time outside. Did you know just spending time outside can increase the production of endorphins, which can help you feel less stressed.

After dinner don’t sit down and just jell out. Get up and take a walk with the whole family and watch the sunset. No phones or technology allowed during your walk. It is amazing how sunsets are daily occurrences and we don’t even stop to look at them. We are always in such a rush to get things done.

Make it a point to hold hands with your sweetheart and watch the sunset tonight with the whole family while you take a walk. If the children want to hold your hand too, make them grab the hand that is free. Don’t release your hand from your spouse. Your children need to see and feel the strength of your marriage.

Walking together and watching the sunset will help to relax the whole family and will bring everyone closer to each other. It gives everyone an opportunity to talk with none of the distractions of TV, video games or texting.

When you walk back into your home you will all feel a relaxing glow from watching a sunset together that will last until the next day!

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

***My free eBook is coming soon! Be on the lookout for it and when it comes out you can be one of the first to get it. ***

“Your marriage is a gift from God; how you treat it is a gift to him.”

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Mature Couple Walking On PavementI published this in 2010 and recently was telling a friend about how we dealt with having a teenager in your life. My friend loved the idea and planned on doing the same thing. It got me thinking you would enjoy hearing about it too.

Do you have teenage children? Are they driving you a little crazy and you can’t agree with your spouse on how to handle a particular situation with your teen? I remember those days well. Larry sometimes would be very upset about something our daughter had done and I didn’t think it was that big of a deal. And then there were the times I was upset and he wasn’t. Do you argue in front of the kids until you find a solution? We found a way to come to an agreement without our daughter hearing us. How did we do it?

It was our daughter’s responsibility to clear the dishes and put them in the dishwasher after dinner. That’s when we would go for a walk and argue it out. There were no ears to hear and she couldn’t play us against each other. It was good not only for our relationship but it was good for our health too. If we were really upset about something she had done we would walk really fast.

As we walked we would talk about how a situation should be handled. There were times when one of us felt we needed to be hard on her and after discussing it the other would say you are right it’s not that important and then there were times after a discussion we would agree together we were not happy with her. These walks taught us how to pick our battles with what was really important in raising our child.

When we walked back in the door we would stand strong together. She had a hard time pushing our buttons. What she got was a strong mother and father who didn’t let her go between them. She knew when she was in trouble and there was no getting out of it. She was taught responsibility for her actions which has turned her into a responsible and productive adult today.

So the next time you and your husband aren’t agreeing on how the children should be raised go for a walk and work it out. Your children will thank you later in life and you will keep the sanity in your marriage.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Pink HeartDo you have a love story about you and your sweetheart you would like to share? Then you will want to head straight to Bedheadpjs.com and tell them your story by Feb 8th, 2013. They want to hear about your love story between you and your spouse, friend, children or family and you might win a very nice pajama set.

BedHeadPJS.com is having a contest were you get the opportunity to share with them your love story and if your story is chosen you will win a Love Letters PJ. Most importantly you story will be featured on BedHeadPJS.com’s blog for their followers to read!

Guys do you want to make points with your sweetheart? Then write your love story about the love of your life. Who knows you might end up with a very nice pair of pajamas for your sweetie pie.

Ladies don’t be shy share you love story with BedHeadPJS and those cute Love Letters PJs might just become yours
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What a very romantic thing to do is to share your very special love story with Bedhead Pajamas and their followers.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo
2/1/13

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I bet you thought I forgot about you? Larry & I just got back on a whirlwind trip to DC and New York compliments of our daughter, Denise and her husband, Tom. We were able to stay for 10 days and Tom flew in on the 2 weekends we were there. We saved our money for all other incidentals, food, tours, etc. while we were there. We had an absolute blast!

Denise is currently living and working in Arlington, VA while Tom is still living in Nipomo, CA. They make it a point to either meet in DC or Nipomo every other weekend and Denise travels for work quite a bit too. They are racking up points in airline miles which allowed us to fly for free and stay at Denise’s beautiful two bedroom apartment for free.

DC is a beautiful clean place with lots to do, free museums, historic places to see and great restaurants. They have a fabulous Metro system to get around and it is easy to use. We walked every day until our feet were ready to fall off and saw as much as we could but we just couldn’t see it all.

Here are some of the highlights we did while in DC:

• Spy Museum
• Museum of Engraving & Printing (Money)
• East Market on Sunday (Flea Market/Farmers Market)
• Air & Space Museum
• Double Decker Bus (Red Line & Blue Line gave us an overview of everything in DC & Arlington, VA)
• American History Museum
• Smithsonian Castle
• Lunch @ the American Indian Museum (Great place for lunch)
• Metro Station
• White House
• Capital
• Strolled around Georgetown

I could go on and on about how much there is to do and see. You cannot see it all in 10 days.

On our second weekend Denise surprised us with a train trip to New York to visit our granddaughter, Dani, who is going to the Fashion Institute to study to be a Fashion Merchandiser. She is 20 years old and just moved there a month ago and is loving school and the city. We are so proud of her and the goals she is setting for herself and her future.

Me, Larry and Denise arrived Saturday, in New York, at 12:30 PM and Dani was waiting outside of Penn Station for us. Tom surprised us by being here too. We stayed at the beautiful Marriott Marquis. Larry and I felt like we got the best room of all. We were on the 36th floor which overlooked the Hudson River. That evening when we went to bed we left the drapes opened because we had a spectacular view of the city and river with no obstructions in the way.

Here are the highlights of our stay in NY:

• Lunch at Madison Park
• Century 21 Building (Shopping at a discount!!!)
• In the evening we walked the Highline (Train tracks no longer being used turned into a wild flower and plant oasis)
• Dinner in the Meat Packing District
• Sunday Brunch

We left New York on Sunday at 2:00 PM on the train to DC while Tom flew back home to California. We arrived in DC and dropped our luggage at the apartment at around 6:00 PM and went out to dinner in Arlington. We then headed back to the apartment to pack and prepared to leave the next morning at 7:00 AM for our 9:00 AM flight back to Santa Maria and reality.

We were back at work on Tuesday a little tired but with lots of wonderful memories.

While our travel and sleeping quarters were taken care of via Denise and Tom we did plan and saved money for our trip, this enabled us to enjoy our trip without using our credit cards.

I am ready and excited to bring you more ideas and reasons to keep the romance in your marriage.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Do you have a blended family? How are you handling the discipline issues in your household? Do you find you and your husband argue a lot over how you should discipline the kids. Do you find the children trying to manipulate you or your husband because they want their life to be the way it used to be? They want Mom & Dad together not a step-mom or step-dad in their lives.

When blended families come together it isn’t always the happy togetherness you both had envisioned. The today show talks about the importance of communication between you and your sweetheart. Sitting down and setting rules ahead of time on how you will handle disciplining each other’s children.

Dana Points, editor-in-chief, of Parent Magazine and psychologist, Michelle Callahan, marriage expert and author of Ms Typed were on the Today Show and they bring up some good points on how to handle these issues.

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Our daughter, Denise, married a wonderful man who had 2 children from a previous marriage and when she married him he had legal custody of both. She not only fell in love with Tom but his children too.

When she came into their lives she never required them to call her mom because she respected they already had a mom. If they would have chosen to call her mom and did so that would have been OK for her too. I think it is important to allow the children to decide what they want to call the step parent. Tom’s 2 children are grown now and they love and look to Denise as their second Mom.

Showing respect for each other is one of the most important things when living in a blended family.  If you and your spouse stand strong together as a couple the kids won’t be able to cause some of the issues blended families have.
Don’t forget to make time for each other; it will be easier to remember why you fell in love with your sweetheart. You both will be able to deal with whatever the kids may try.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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I talked to a friend recently and wanted to tell you about her and her husband. Names have been changed to keep their privacy. Tanya and her Husband, Michael, have been married for approximately 12 years. They have 3 children which keep them busy with school, sports practice and weekend games, along with doing things as a family. Tanya and Michael both work fulltime. They are a couple passing each other in the hall. No romance, no companionship, just work and children.  No Fun!

As Tanya started to talk she started to open up to me more and more. Apparently, they are thinking of separating. They are both asking each other “Where is the Love”? Tanya in particular is very unhappy and wants out. They have tried counseling but only went for a short while, not long enough to help them make this very important decision not only about themselves but also for their children.

Tanya and Michael are arguing a lot and the children are beginning to notice it and feel the tension surrounding their marriage.  As we talked, Tanya confided in me that last year she had an affair with someone else but it was over now. Michael only knows she was attracted to someone else but she told him nothing ever happened. She said for her to have the affair there had to be something wrong with her marriage already. I agree with her. You typically don’t have an affair unless there is something missing in the relationship.

It is my personal belief if the marriage isn’t working then maybe you do need to get a divorce but you need to at least try counseling and not only for 6 weeks. What I heard from Tanya is a hurting woman who feels very guilty about having the affair so now she is looking at Michael and seeing all his faults to make her feel better. Isn’t it easier to see all your spouse’s faults and have a reason for why you had the affair? I feel Tanya needs to forgive herself before she can move forward and try to make her marriage work. What do you think? Before you can move forward with a huge decision of disrupting not only a marriage but the lives of 3 children who love their father and mother very much, don’t you think they deserve to seek counseling longer than 6 weeks? Mistakes happen let it go!

I hurt for both of them but most importantly their children. My concern is one day Tanya is going to wake up and say “Oh, my God, what did I do?” I had a loving husband and children whom I love very much and I did something I knew was wrong but didn’t try to find out why or how could I fix it. I had a loving husband who wasn’t perfect but neither am I.

Yes, Tanya was wrong in having an affair but none of us is perfect. Tanya needs to find a way to forgive herself without telling her husband (She doesn’t need to hurt him too) and see if they both can make this marriage work. After several months of counseling both private and together they still feel their marriage isn’t working then get a divorce, at least they tried.

What is your opinion? Have you ever had an affair? How did you handle it? Has your spouse ever had an affair? Are you still together? Let me know your thoughts and opinion.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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