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Do you know what makes your marriage work, that sweet spot where you both are in the zone and feel the most comfortable with each other? What! You don’t think you have a sweet spot in your relationship!

You might be surprised after reading this to find out you do have a perfect moment where it all feels just right. Most couples don’t realize they have a sweet spot they can call their own. After questioning couples about what made them feel the most relaxed together, I found out most didn’t have a clue and it took a little probing before they figured it out.

Here are some of my findings:

• Your husband driving a ½ hour on the freeway to dinner while listening to jazz in the background and talking. (My favorite)
• Spending the night on their boat with no TV.
• Going to a coffee house and enjoying a drink while watching people walk by
• Hiking together
• Gardening together
• Walking in the park, by the lake or ocean
• Enjoying a glass of wine at your favorite restaurant in the evening
• Sitting outside during the summer after the kids are in bed
• Sitting by the fireplace in the winter after the kids are in bed
• Playing games together, i.e., scrabble, monopoly, checkers, chess, etc.

It is important to know your sweet spot as a couple. It makes you feel connected to each other. You feel safe and loved when you are in the zone and that is important to your relationship.

So figure out your sweet spot and cherish it. It is what separates your relationship from other couples.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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In Oct of 2010 I wrote this blog and thought it was worth revisiting. We all need to be reminded to take time out.

Are you and your spouse stressed out from the daily grind of work and responsibilities of life? Spend some time outside. Did you know just spending time outside can increase the production of endorphins, which can help you feel less stressed.

After dinner don’t sit down and just jell out. Get up and take a walk with the whole family and watch the sunset. No phones or technology allowed during your walk. It is amazing how sunsets are daily occurrences and we don’t even stop to look at them. We are always in such a rush to get things done.

Make it a point to hold hands with your sweetheart and watch the sunset tonight with the whole family while you take a walk. If the children want to hold your hand too, make them grab the hand that is free. Don’t release your hand from your spouse. Your children need to see and feel the strength of your marriage.

Walking together and watching the sunset will help to relax the whole family and will bring everyone closer to each other. It gives everyone an opportunity to talk with none of the distractions of TV, video games or texting.

When you walk back into your home you will all feel a relaxing glow from watching a sunset together that will last until the next day!

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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“Your marriage is a gift from God; how you treat it is a gift to him.”

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I published this in 2010 and recently was telling a friend about how we dealt with having a teenager in your life. My friend loved the idea and planned on doing the same thing. It got me thinking you would enjoy hearing about it too.

Do you have teenage children? Are they driving you a little crazy and you can’t agree with your spouse on how to handle a particular situation with your teen? I remember those days well. Larry sometimes would be very upset about something our daughter had done and I didn’t think it was that big of a deal. And then there were the times I was upset and he wasn’t. Do you argue in front of the kids until you find a solution? We found a way to come to an agreement without our daughter hearing us. How did we do it?

It was our daughter’s responsibility to clear the dishes and put them in the dishwasher after dinner. That’s when we would go for a walk and argue it out. There were no ears to hear and she couldn’t play us against each other. It was good not only for our relationship but it was good for our health too. If we were really upset about something she had done we would walk really fast.

As we walked we would talk about how a situation should be handled. There were times when one of us felt we needed to be hard on her and after discussing it the other would say you are right it’s not that important and then there were times after a discussion we would agree together we were not happy with her. These walks taught us how to pick our battles with what was really important in raising our child.

When we walked back in the door we would stand strong together. She had a hard time pushing our buttons. What she got was a strong mother and father who didn’t let her go between them. She knew when she was in trouble and there was no getting out of it. She was taught responsibility for her actions which has turned her into a responsible and productive adult today.

So the next time you and your husband aren’t agreeing on how the children should be raised go for a walk and work it out. Your children will thank you later in life and you will keep the sanity in your marriage.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Good vibrations will happen between you and your sweetheart because you saved $5 a week for a year to go on a romantic getaway.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

***My free eBook is coming soon! Be on the lookout for it and when it comes out you can be one of the first to get it. ***

“Your marriage is a gift from God; how you treat it is a gift to him.”

© 2013, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

Are you so stressed and tired that you are seldom in the mood for love with your sweetheart? Then you will want to watch this video with Kathy & Hoda as they talk to psychiatrist Dr. Janet Taylor & therapist Hal Runkel. They both have some great ideas about on how to keep the love alive between the two of you.

Therapist Hal Runkel has some very wise advice that you need to listen to toward the end of the video.

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So what was your take on what the psychiatrist and therapist had to say?

I have said it before and I will say it again, “It is so important to treat and respect each other first then the children second.” You are teaching your children how to have a good marriage and your children will thank you once they are adults and married.

So who comes first in your relationship, the children or your spouse?

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

***My free eBook is coming soon! Be on the lookout for it and when it comes out you can be one of the first to get it. ***

“Your marriage is a gift from God; how you treat it is a gift to him.”

© 2013, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.

Have you ever wondered if your marriage is normal? What are couples in long term happy marriages doing that maybe you’re not?

While I think couples and marriages are all different and what determines normal is based on the couple and their beliefs and expectations. It is always good to see if you can make some changes that could make it better.

Chrisanna Northrup & Pepper Schwartz wrote a book call “The Normal Bar” were they surveyed 100,000 people and discovered there are things that happy long term marriages do that dysfunctional marriages don’t.

Watch the Today Show with Matt Lauer & Savannah Guthrie interviewing Chrisanna & Pepper about what their survey found. You will find it interesting.

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We can always learn from other people. A marriage always has room for change. It is the marriage that stands still and becomes stale are usually the ones that fall apart.

What is your opinion on this?

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Do you have a love story about you and your sweetheart you would like to share? Then you will want to head straight to Bedheadpjs.com and tell them your story by Feb 8th, 2013. They want to hear about your love story between you and your spouse, friend, children or family and you might win a very nice pajama set.

BedHeadPJS.com is having a contest were you get the opportunity to share with them your love story and if your story is chosen you will win a Love Letters PJ. Most importantly you story will be featured on BedHeadPJS.com’s blog for their followers to read!

Guys do you want to make points with your sweetheart? Then write your love story about the love of your life. Who knows you might end up with a very nice pair of pajamas for your sweetie pie.

Ladies don’t be shy share you love story with BedHeadPJS and those cute Love Letters PJs might just become yours
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What a very romantic thing to do is to share your very special love story with Bedhead Pajamas and their followers.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo
2/1/13

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Looking for ways to rekindle the romance with your sweetheart? Then watch the Today Show’s video with Dr. Laura Berman. She has good sound advice that is easy to implement into your life. So watch the 2:50 minute video and start romancing each other:

Re-Energize Your Romance for a Hotter New Year

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Start today if you want to keep the romance in your relationship. You won’t wake up one day saying my husband/wife feels more like my brother or sister instead of my lover.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Whishing you and your family a very Merry Christmas!

Just in case you haven’t given your sweetheart the gift that no one else can give but you here is your reminder: A Very Snowy and Sexy Christmas

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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If you save $5 a week for a romantic weekend away with your sweetheart you will be superchanging your relationship.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

© 2012, Surprise Kiss. All rights reserved.