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Archive for October, 2011

I wrote this blog on August 13, 2010 and thought you would like another reminder on how to deal with those nights when you want to go out on a date night with your sweetheart but you both can’t make the decision. How do you resolve this issue with your sweetheart? Let me know by clicking the comments below.

Have you and your spouse ever gotten in the car and tried to decide what you want to do for date night? You ask your spouse “What do you want to do tonight?” They answer I don’t know. You are frustrated and want them to make a decision but they always leave it up to you. What is a person to do? You want them to plan and make the decision this time not you. Then both of you will make suggestions but the other doesn’t want to go there.

We have done it many times and have found a solution to this issue. Sit down with your sweetheart and write down places, things to do and  restaurants you each like to go to on separate little sheets of paper and fold it. Put it in 3 different envelopes labeled: Places, Things to do & Restaurants and put it in your car. When both of you can’t make up your mind then one of you pulls a sheet from one of the envelopes and the decision is made on what you are doing or eating for that night. No arguing, the decision is made.

From past experience it could save you 1/2 an hour or more of driving around and still not having a place to go to. The benefit of doing this is that there will be an element of surprise; you will both be going to places you enjoy. Once you know what you are doing put the paper back in the envelope so it can be redrawn another time. Remember these are places where you enjoy being at. If you accidentally draw it again the next time, oh well that is the luck of the draw.

So whether you want your spouse to make the decision or neither of you can figure out what you want do, let your envelopes decide for you.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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I posted this on Oct 9, 2009 and thought it was important enough to be reminded to always try to dress nice for our sweetheart. Enjoy the read. Let me know if you agree or disagree with this article under comments below.

When you get up in the morning to go to work do you try to dress nice? When you get home from work do you throw on just any old thing and start to make dinner or do you throw on something that is comfortable but still looks good.  Something you wouldn’t be embarrassed by if someone knocked at the door or you needed to run out and do a couple of errands.

I’m not just asking women these questions I am also asking men. How many times do you see men and women out and about wearing torn, wrinkled or dirty clothes and dragging their feet as they walk through the store? Hello!!!!! I wouldn’t want to go to bed with that!
When you dated did you primp and try to look nice for the person you were going out with? Why does it stop once we get married? Ladies, I’m not talking about a fully made up face every day. When you get married it is too easy for men and women to feel there is no need to try and look good anymore. After a few years of marriage they are complaining that the spark has gone out of their marriage and I look at them and think wonder why! If you take pride in how you look at work why not take pride in how you dress at home? I know when I try to look good whether I am at work or at home I feel better about myself.

 My husband and I always try to dress nicely. When my husband gets home from work he will change into a clean shirt and jeans, even when we are staying home for the evening. There is no dirty, stretched out sweats.  Mind you neither of us is skinny but we do try to look good. My favorite saying is “I’m not fat I’m voluptuous.”  Now that I am not working I try to make sure I have a little gloss on and my hair is combed and that my clothes look clean and I smell good when my husband comes home. With both sexes working now it is very easy to become attracted to an individual they are working with because they take the time to look good. There is nothing sexy about coming home and looking at a slob.

Most importantly, it is about taking pride in who you are and the person you have married. Taking care of yourself and how you look tells people a lot about you. If you think your spouse isn’t noticing think again. What about your children? What are you teaching them if you don’t care about how you look? Your children learn by your example.

You or your spouse didn’t marry a slob. So what makes you think you would want to get romantic with a slob? How you dress at home is as important as dressing for work. So tonight when you get home but on something comfortable and still look good. Spray a little cologne on and give each other a big hug and welcome home.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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