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Archive for April, 2011

Last weekend I suggested you and your sweetheart straighten up your bedroom. I hope you were able to find the time and at least get started toward a relaxing and romantic retreat for the both of you. When your bedroom is pickup and set for romance it will set the tone for not only the rest of the house but also your relationship with each other.

Last weekend we continued to work on our kitchen. Two weekends ago we had painted the ceiling white and put on one coat of Latte on the walls. This weekend we painted a second coat. Then we taped, sanded and painted three coats of white on the baseboards and windowsills. We still have a little touch up work to do and add new white outlets and covers to all the kitchen outlets. I plan on getting new kitchen seat covers for our kitchen chairs and add a new decorative candle to the table.  New window coverings will be added in the next couple months if the budget allows. I am putting money aside right now for them and researching online for the best price. A room doesn’t need to be completed in one weekend.

While you were straightening up your bedroom did you find yourself arguing because maybe your sweetheart wasn’t doing something to your liking?  We did! Yap, life isn’t always bliss together! Are you surprised we argue? Well we do but we typically don’t dwell on it.

Saturday morning our daughter called me to tell me something and Larry answered the phone while I was on my hands and knees tapping the molding. As he handed me the phone he said, “Make sure you are getting close to the molding so paint won’t seep through.” I of course piped right back, “That’s what I am trying to do but if you THINK you can do it better you can take over!!!!” Of course he said, “No, you are doing a perfectly good job.” When I took the phone our Denise & her husband, Tom, had heard the whole conversation and they were laughing because like you and me, they have been there too.  (They have speaker phone in their car.) I laughingly suggested they stop by and help us finish the painting but they said, “So sorry but lucky for us we have lots of things to do.” Once I got off the phone I went back to working on the baseboards and all was forgotten. We may have had words but we don’t make a big deal of things.

You can tell a lot about a relationship in how couples talk to each other. There are couples who will make a huge thing out of one comment and before you know it they are not talking to each other and your common goal of completing something went out the door. Hurtful words and feelings are flying all over the place. For us, we both know we are trying to achieve the completion of a cleaner more updated kitchen on a budget we can afford. It may take us a few months to complete the look but we do it together and without too much drama.

So the next project you try to accomplish together go ahead argue a little but don’t let it get out of hand. Always know you have different ways of doing things and you need to allow each other the freedom to get the job done in your own way. You will have a happier marriage if you do.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

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Kiss your sweetheart everyday and keep saving your $5 a week for your romantic getaway.

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

Need help with cooking for romance, relationship or travel ideas? Then go to my Surprise Kiss Store above and click on the tab to see the authors I like to read and games that are fun to play with your sweetheart.

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Wednesday did you listen to the video I put on my website/blog about “Spring Clean Your Relationship” from the Today Show? Two of the 4 items Ian Kerner, sex therapist, talked about was the importance of reconnecting by going out on a date once a week and sprucing up your bedroom. I got to thinking about what he had to say and I thought this would be a great weekend project and date.

This weekend, suggest to your sweetheart that you both get into your bedroom and clean it up. Tell your spouse you want to have more sparks of love flying around the room than toys and dirty laundry. Have a pad and pencil ready to write down a list of things you will need as you are straightening up everything. You want to make it organized and easier to keep clean. Pick up the kids toys and put them where they belong, in their bedroom not yours. Do you have smelly dirty laundry lying around the room? Start washing, drying and folding while you are both straightening up.

Put clean sheets on the bed, vacuum and dust, then if you have a private bathroom clean it up too. Get rid of the clutter! Add candles to the bedroom & bathroom. Don’t forget to add some nice smelling soaps or body washes for each of you. If you don’t have any add it to your list of things to get. If you have a small CD player make sure you have music you both enjoy and it sets the tone for romance. Do your lamps have the white bulbs in them? Switch them out with pink bulbs to add a romantic feeling and don’t forget to have light dimmers. You will both look better with the lights down low and the beautiful warm pink color against your naked bodies.

Ok, you both worked hard to clean things up and you have your list. Hopefully while you were straightening up the bedroom you found a couple of gift cards you received at Christmas. Call the babysitter and have a date night. Go to the store together and look at new bed linens and purchase one or two items on your list for your love nest. Every payday try to add another item from your wish list. After go to the local coffee house and have a decaffeinated drink and talk about how you are both going to help to keep this room picked up and cleaned every week. Let your spouse know you want to have a room that helps you both relax and get in the “mood for love”.

When you get home light the candles and turn on the music real soft and low. Take a shower together and enjoy your restful surroundings together. You will both be thankful for your bedroom of love!

Keep those sparks flying!
JoJo

Need help with cooking for romance, relationship or travel ideas? Then go to my Surprise Kiss Store above and click on the tab to see the authors I like to read and games that are fun to play with your sweetheart.

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